by Dave564 » July 3rd, 2025, 2:11 am
I believe that when I was young, I bi-curious leaning towards straight - this file was the thing that opened me up to talking to men and being intimate with a man
When that happened - things changed gear and it was my boyfriend (at the time) introduced me to the gay lifestyle - that lifestyle change (along with the file) made me the gay man that I am today, and I'm really proud of who I am.
I don't really know when my heterosexual thoughts faded away, I would say maybe it was a slow process over 2-3 years, but I didn't realise it was happening, I didn't "think" about it because I was totally consumed with all the new things in my life - I should say that I love women, I adore them, idolise them - I see attractive women all the time and think "she's gorgeous" - I have lots of female friends, and have close relationships with them - I can (and have) kissed women (they love it) - and it feels great, but it's not sexual - women are a huge part of my life, they are friendships, and given me counsel - but arousal is just not there.
Identifying as gay is so much more than just these sexual aspects