by hypnome69 » September 23rd, 2013, 5:56 am
Thanks for the good advice. I haven't listened to any files for two days. I think I can keep not listening. Listening does get very appealing when things go poorly with sex with my wife, but I will try not to take the easy path.
I think you are on to something about thinking about what I want. I think two things are coming together here. I do like pleasing my wife and not worrying about being pleased in return. She is not often open to that (says she feels guilty)... So this does reinforce that.
Also, and this is why I think the stress might be effective at making me go limp, back when I was in college I did have some problems staying hard. For some reason, some brands of condoms really felt uncomfortable. I had a girlfriend who would get the free condoms they handed out on campus, and they just felt weird... Almost uncomfortably tight, a little itchy, and I really could not feel much when we had sex with them on.
It took a lot of work to orgasm with them on, and I started to go soft sometimes if I tried real hard to orgasm. Switching brands fixed everything... And if she happened to get one of the old brand, I would usually go limp within a minute or so... Once I recognized the feel, it seemed to happen faster and faster.
I had not thought about this in a long time, but it is what the sensations are sometimes like now. I can easily visualize the panic of going limp while wearing those condoms, no matter what my girlfriend was doing. This could be a positive though, because just thinking about it reminds me of how wonderful things were when we switched brands.
Sorry, that is probably too much information, but I think it might have helped.