advice please

[aezrin2]

Well hello to you all. my name is aezrin. iwant totrythe fem files but i'm not sure if it's right for me, let me explain. for years i have had desires to cross-dress and wear makeup. i have wonder alway if i should be a woman. I'm just not sure, my heart says yes but my head says no. the things in life i want such as children and family have swayed me from trying, but the desire is still the. i get off on the thought and am like stupid u like girls and i do. every day i debat wether or not to listen to fem files. usually i don't b/c of fear that it isn't right even though most of the time it feels so right. what should i do? please help me if you can, advice will be greatly appreiciated. thanx aezrin

[Kurai]

No one person can give you the right answer to your question. You are the only person who could answer it... But if you want my op. Go for it, Happiness is never gained with out risk. Good luck.

[Ace_Rimmer]

http://transsexual.org/cgi-bin/cgitest.exe?

Take the test; it may help you out.

[axedarkdemon14]

that test is rubbish and also all online test's are crap because the answers to the questions could be something which you have never thought or would even think about but i do not like anything to do with masterbating or sex so if any of those questions come up i do not answer them.

[VeryGnawty]

I also agree that the test is rubbish.

When in doubt, follow your heart.

[demigraff]

I took that test just to see what it said. Apparently, it thinks I'm androgynous (scored 105), which kind of surprises me.

[makidas]

[Jack]

[sandy82]

[Kurai]

[Kurai]

[VeryGnawty]

[sandy82]

[VeryGnawty]

[gurlbidesign]

[axedarkdemon14]

don't forget v.g that you were only saying what you thought was the right thing to say and that was your view on the topic but of course people can get angry or annoyed at what people say and this is what causes a lot of nice people who want to help and share there views in the forum get pushed away because of people which say they are wrong or say things which they have no right in saying or even guessing about what you think or have been though.

anyway the information that you say to people on the forums has a different effect on different people some may agree while others go off on a moan on what they think is best or in other words they do not agree.

but people should not go and start insulting each other and swearing at each other and saying stuff which they should not be saying which the other people may not like.

i mean why can't everyone talk there problems together, if someone has a problem with someone else talk to them about it and do not go off insulting each other this makes people leave and never want to come back because of how badly people can talk to each other.

[sandy82]

[gurlbidesign]

[makidas]

[asdf]

Gender expression is more than anatomy and social status. For me, gender is independent of sexuality or identity. I am a female, regardless of my (feminized) male body and masculine name. It is, for me, the only way to be truly happy.

It's a bold move to confront your wife with an issue like this. Even more bold to confront your family and friends. Life as an MTF can be challenging, but if it is essential to your happiness, I think you should pursue it.

[sandy82]

[asdf]

[sandy82]

Many thanks, asdf, for an interesting answer. I sense that you see some words and phrases as having meanings and importance different from those to which I am accustomed. Vance Packard wrote an interesting book in the late 1950s which is still available in libraries. It now amounts to commentary, often intentionally humorous. Called "The Status Seekers." In that context, "social status" relates to your neighborhood, how much education and where, your clubs, your church. Apparently you use the phrase in a more sociological way.

Also, my point on personal happiness had little to do with how one defines personal happiness. It concerned the question of when one chooses to defer or forego one's own happiness, however defined, because other values (the happiness of others, one's duty in certain situations, etc.) are deemed more important.

My last comment really didn't bear on debate. I see no need for a debate. My purpose was to deter a small handful of readers (whose enthusiasm outweighs comprehension) from jumping the queue.