Unwelcomed trigger PMs?

[kitsukat]

After making a positive comment on a file the other day, I received a PM in which the user had tried to use the trigger mentioned in that file. The trigger didnt' work (due to the fact that they had used it wrong and I don't particularly respond to triggers being used by somebody that I don't know or trust), but I was still fairly annoyed at the fact that the user had tried.

I was wondering what the site's policy on sending and receiving unwelcome triggers via PM? Should I report/block the user that did it?

I mean, I comment on files that I've tried because it's polite to provide feedback for not only the hypnotist, but to other users who want to know how well the file worked, and I don't want to feel like I'm putting myself at risk of getting taken advantage of if I express a positive opinion on a file with triggers.

[sfhole2stretch]

The party who tried that is an idiot. Either a total newby without a clue or a predator. Sadly their are lunatics in every corner of the world. A great lesson that we all need to be very careful, mindful and aware.

[TeenWolf]

i know it doesn't matter, but what was the trigger?
if sexual, most likely a predator/paedophile.
ive had someone do that before with a jock trigger. having listening to the files for months, it was almost instinct to instantly respond. oh well.

[kitsukat]

I know revealing the trigger helps with context, but that's kind of straying from the topic. I know there are idiots/predators/people out there that will try to take advantage of me. I never really stray too far away from sites like that when browsing the internet.

However, I'm wondering what the site's policy on messages like that. Should I seek further action, or just ignore it? What if the trigger had worked?

Should I really feel like I can't add my input on files due to fear of being taken advantage of?

[zapnosis]

I would report that if it bothered you. It says on the intro page:

"We ask that users do NOT use trigger phrases in the chat rooms or messages, it isn't polite and can cause problems."

So I guess that's the policy.

[kitsukat]

Yeah, I was trying to find out if there was a more detailed version of that particular policy, but I did send EMG a PM about it.

I'm currently debating whether I should publicly call out the person that did it.

[Fizbin]

[zapnosis]

[kitsukat]

[oraprog]

Oooh, humiliation. Maybe that was his intent to start with.

You should have the ability to ignore the person? You've reported them to the admin. Can't do much more, let it go.

[xavious]

My knowledge of hypnosis suggests that if you didn't want to, you wouldn't have done it anyway. Of course that doesn't negate how badly this person has acted.

I understand how you feel though. On another site to do with other fetishes I got so annoyed that people would message me and speak to me in a particular way without any established agreement purely because of my age and appearance. It was pretty insulting and I was often made to feel bad as though I had deceived them.

If a person states outright that they are a sub and love any tist messaging them and trying to trance them, then fine, but if some kind of understanding hasn't been set up then what that person did is wrong.

[kitsukat]

[kitsukat]

First of all, this is a completely different person from earlier. I never got a reply from the first one.

Secondly, I've had issues with this guy before, but didn't block him last time because he stopped talking after I told him off. This was too much, and I really felt violated.

It's not about feeding the trolls, it's about maintaining a feeling of safety, since this fetish relies on mutual trust between the tists and the subjects. I shouldn't feel like I'm putting myself at risk just for sharing my experiences.

Besides, isn't it good to blacklist the users that try to take advantage of others? Isn't it good for subjects to know which users to avoid?

[Mutazoa]

I would say setting up a blacklist of potential abusers would be a good thing. Its one thing to invite people to trip your triggers, its completely different to try to ambush some one with them. If we have a list of people to be wary of, it could make things safer for everyone here.

[Calimore]